Pregnancy and Infant Loss

Hear a little of my journey with loss and how God has helped me persevere … https://vimeo.com/159256306

At the end of 2009 I suffered a missed miscarriage with our first child. Not only was I devastated by the loss but I was also lost myself. I did not receive any type of brochure, newsletter, packet, resources of any kind for my loss. Craving information and support I turned to the internet where I found I am not alone! One in four pregnancies end in miscarriage and statistics do not stop there as that does not include all the mothers who have lost their children due to ectopic pregnancy, stillborn, SIDS, and countless other heartbreaking stories.

In 2016 I experienced another devastating loss of our twins. Though we have been blessed with four healthy “rainbow” children the loss of our three babies is still very hurtful and a daily struggle. Not only do I want our three babies in Heaven to be remembered I also want to help others who have lost a child. I want to offer them my support, love, prayers, knowledge, and resources. I want others to know they are not alone and I want to raise awareness of pregnancy and infant loss. You can read my journey on my blog page.

The day I left the hospital after finding out we had lost Baby KW I left empty handed and the same as I left the doctor’s office the following Monday. I was given no information about what missed miscarriage was, was their hope for me to have children in the future, no information for support groups, no information for memorial jewelry or ideas, no information about my rights at the hospital following the d and c, nothing. I feel like this is detrimental to the baby loss community. We should be supplying mothers, fathers, and families with all the great resources available to help them through this difficult journey.

There are so many others who have suffered a loss of a child and there are so many ways to connect with them on Facebook, Twitter, blogs, charities, local support groups and so on.

The following is a list of resources I have compiled for all different groups, websites, blogs, information, support, and anything about pregnancy and infant loss. If you have any information to add please let me know.

 

Read my article about being a Rainbow Mommy as published on Scary Mommy.

Scary Mommy

 

Grieving with Hope Facebook Group

Atrium Medical Center H.E.A.L (Help Endure A Loss)

1st Frame
Baby and Infant Loss Memories
Baby Angel Pics
Casting Keepsakes
The Comfort Company
Eden’s Wings
Engraved uniques
For Your Tears
The Kindness Project
La Belle Dame
A Loss Remembered
Molly Bears
Perinatal ComfortCare

Perinatal Hospice
Prenatal Partners for Life

Babies Remembered

Griefshare
International Babylost Mothers Day
M.E.N.D
MISS Foundation
National Share Organization
Our Hope Place
Remembering Our Babies (October 15th)
Still Standing Online Magazine
Sufficient Grace Ministries
Baby Center – 2nd and 3rd trimester loss

Baby Center – ectopic pregnancy
Baby Center – miscarriage
Baby Center – miscarriage, stillbirth, and infant loss
Baby Center – molar pregnancy
Baby Center – perinatal and infant loss
Baby Center – pregnancy after loss
Baby Center – termination for medical reasons
Now I Lay Me Down To Sleep

{Family and Friends}

It is hard to know what to say or do when someone has lost a child(ren) especially when you have never experienced it yourself.

My advice is to first let them know you are sorry for their loss and acknowledge their loss.

One of the biggest fears of mothers of pregnancy and infant loss have is that their child(ren) will be forgotten so assure them you will always remember their child(ren). Remember them on special dates, due dates, birth dates, date of death, mother’s days etc…

Send a card in the mail or in person just letting them know you are there for them.

Take them dinner, take them a movie or a book just anything to show you are supporting them.

 

Here is some information about pregnancy and infant loss.

American Pregnancy Association
March of Dimes
BabyCenter
Pregnancy Loss